By Sister Jean Ann McGrath
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. For many years in our parish, the day began with a beautiful liturgy where a table blessing and even a loaf of fresh-baked bread from a local Italian restaurant was sent home with each family to share at their Thanksgiving table. This year, I worry that the spirit of gratitude and peace that set the tone for the day may be difficult to replicate as COVID 19 protocols limit the number of people who will be able to attend the liturgy and health and safety regulations alter the rituals that made the day so special.
One thing that will not change is the Gospel reading, the lovely narrative about the ten lepers who, when they encountered Jesus, begged to be cured. The gospel story is focused not only on the healing miracle, but also on the disgrace that only one remembered to come back and say thank you. During my teaching years, I loved to retell that story as a way to remind my students how often we forget to say thank you for the blessings and graces we too often take for granted. We Christians sometimes have pretty poor manners.
This year, I have a different take on the gospel story and have thought more about the nine who forgot their manners than the one who returned.
For most of my life, I have been quick to judge the ingratitude of the other nine. This year, I think I want to “give them a break” and think about how they danced into their future healed, happy, and yes, perhaps hopeful for a life they could not have imagined had they not so boldly asked for the grace to be healed.
I think I can relate more to the nine this year because of the turbulent times in which we live. The Covid Crisis, political anxiety, deep concern about the economy, and isolation from loved ones are just some of the signs of a world that begs to be healed. I yearn for the consolation and strength of crowded Churches where the rituals of life, weddings, sacramental celebrations, and even funerals create the memory making moments that shape our life and faith journey. I yearn for the raucous family Thanksgiving celebration that each year seems to have more “kids’ tables” as our family grows.
This thanksgiving, like the ten lepers, we stand waiting and begging to be healed from the uncertainty of our troubled world. And, because ours is a God of infinite compassion, empathy and mercy, we know that one day we, like the ten, can be confident that healing will happen. But, will we remember our manners?
I would like to think that among the nine, one of two were just so overjoyed at being healed that they could not wait to be reunited with the community that had shunned them. “Look, I am whole and home!”
Maybe one or two were the more contemplative and introverted type who just had to sneak away and ponder what had just happened in their lives “How could this be when I was so hopeless and alone and now I am whole again?”
Perhaps there were a few skeptics among the nine…”Is this a temporary cure? Can I dare return to life as I once knew it?”
I have at times, been the one who remembered to return and say thank you. I have also (and perhaps more frequently) been one of the nine who for reasons unknown, but possibly understandable, took the blessings of life too much for granted.
This Thanksgiving will be so different than others I have known. Our large family will not be gathered around a single table. Out of town relatives will not be flying in to celebrate. The Thanksgiving Liturgy will be very simple. But I will be more conscious of the ten who waited to encounter the healing presence of Jesus. I hope I remember to say thank you.
But if not, I believe that the God who can heal and transform all that worries me these difficult days, is also is a God of infinite patience, understanding, and grace who will understand if I forget my manners.
Happy Thanksgiving!
About the Author
After years as a Catholic School Principal, Sister Jean McGrath is looking forward to volunteer service now that she has retired. She loves a good book, a good conversation and a good bargain!
Truly a writing worth reflecting on. Thank-you Jean
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Thank you Mary!
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Thank you Jean! We do indeed take so much for granted and we do get judgmental. And as often as we recognize the judgment, yet we go right back to new judgments. We are so fortunateGod is so forgiving.
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Thank you for reading, Gertrude! And yes, we are fortunate indeed!
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Happy Thanksgiving, Sister! Enjoy your day!
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Thank you, Veronica! Happy Thanksgiving to you!
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Very Good reflections, Sister Jean. I think that the other nine were grateful but forgot to say thanks as they got caught up in their new selves. i can certainly relate to that! Perhaps, this year has taught not to take things for granted…I hope so!
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I hope so too, Betsy!
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What good thoughts, Jean. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Happy Thanksgiving to you!
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so good to hear you stretch the meaning of a familiar passage, Jean. Enjoyed this provoking piece as we enter ‘thanksgiving’ time! Betsy
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Thank you Betsy!
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Well done, Jean! This makes me smile and, oh yes, hope I remember to say thank you during this unusual Thanksgiving time.
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Thanks Jackie!
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We also know that you love (and create) a good laugh! Love, Doreen
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Thank you Doreen!
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Time definitely for me to say
Thank you to so many that helped me to be so thankful for
once again wholeness, health
and healing! It will be a special
Thanksgiving! Thanks for the
Reflection Jean!
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Thank you, Marlene! Happy Thanksgiving!
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Thank you for taking the time to share your reflection and art work…..”this Thanksgiving will be very different”….simpler, quieter……with maybe a bit more space for gratitude…..and a deeper appreciation for all we’ve been given….thanks again…..
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Thanks for reading, Bernie. And yes, perhaps it will give us more space for gratitude.
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…Things that make you go…ummmmmmmmmmmm?
Grazie! for this “Reminder” to be Grateful.
Happy Thanksgiving!!! God Bless!
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Happy Thanksgiving to you, Louisa! And God Bless!
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Gratitude, the attitude by which life is worth living every day of the year! I liked the way you linked it with lack of judgement for those who neglect to say thank you for the blessings they have received. I want to believe that the “nine” were living more grateful after they were healed, even though they didn’t return to the one who healed them to say thank you. Thank you!
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Thank you for your thoughts, Marie! Love that first saying!
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Great reflection, Jean. Thank you.
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Thanks for reading, Marianne!
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Thanks for your message Jean. These days bring a new meaning to the healing that Jesus brought to many..
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Thank you Claudia!
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Thanksgiving has always been our favorite holiday also, Jean. You gave it a new twist and something to think about anew! Thank you, Jean, for your wisdom!
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Thank you for reading, Kathleen!
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You—as is often the case— have me contemplating the familiar in a new way!
I do know that considering my blessings this season will have me also considering my response and my attitude of gratitude in this strange, unprecedented time.
THANK YOU for this (and so much more), Jean..
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Thank you for reading Joanne!
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Thanks, Jean. I am in bed in a rehab center with a newly broken leg and your article has me reflecting on this experience more deeply. I cannot leap for joy in this non weight bearing state, but my spirit can hop around trusting that I will be able to leap again! I am surrounded by friends, both old and new, who are helping me to remember my manners and be grateful for what I have. Happy Thsnksgiving! Judy Cole (Cleveland)
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Happy Thanksgiving, Judy! I’m sorry to hear about your leg, but glad this post helped you reflect! Wishing you a speedy recovery!
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Sister Jean … How beautifully written. So may I take this time to THANK YOU for being a ‘guiding light’ when I student taught at St Hugh. It was one of the best experiences of my future ‘calling’. I will never forget.
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Thank you so much, Geraldine!
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Jean, Thanks for the reminder to look for another perspective of a situation before forming a conclusion.
Rose Mary Sullivan
P.S . Maybe you should consider doing more writing as part of your volunteer life. (?)
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Thanks Rose Mary! And something to consider!
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Thank you for this beautiful reflection, Sister Jean. And thank you for sharing your gifts with our family over the years. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Thank you, Mary! And Happy Thanksgiving to you!
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Thanks for your good words!
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Thanks for reading, Jeanne!
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