By Sister Mary Jo Curtsinger
Do you know a Muslim personally? That happens to be the first question on Georgetown University’s 2016 Bridge Initiative survey of American Catholic public opinion and portrayals of Islam. Get this: Catholics are less likely than the average Mary Jo on the U.S. streets to know a Muslim personally. Only 3 in 10 Catholics say “Yes.”
So do you? Know a Muslim? Personally, that is? If you say “Yes,” survey says you are much more likely to have a favorable impression overall of Muslims.
This finding said to me: In these days of a rising discriminatory practice and Islamophobic rhetoric, spikes in hate crimes, governmental actions curbing the influx of refugees and immigrants from Muslim-majority countries…can we just do something to respond to our church’s call to solidarity with our Muslim sisters and brothers?
That’s the plain-talk version of my doctoral thesis-project proposal, and here’s what I’ve been up to:
This summer I searched and found five Catholics and five Muslims (aged 22-28) who were committed to their own religious tradition, but were newcomers to interfaith circles, and who were willing to gather for four Sunday afternoons in August to get to know one another.
Four weeks later, this is how it looked:
This picture is surely worth at least a thousand words. But here are some of these ten women’s words.
I asked them at the end of our time together to complete these sentences:
My overall feeling about having participated in these sessions is_____________.
Their answers were:
One key outcome of these gatherings for me is an increase in ________.
“Sisterhood” indeed evolved among us. Around the middle of our time together I realized that the women had started referring to each other as “our Muslim sisters” and “our Catholic sisters.” Amazing.
Yet there was not a magic formula for getting there. Change happened because these faithful and smart young women asserted that our shared humanity would be the common ground for opening themselves to appreciative learning from one another, in a spirit of respect, humility, and courage.
Once we framed our time together this way, it becomes easy to relax and just have fun.
One-on-one walks together were part of every gathering. Taking walks together is something friends do. Enjoying the beauty of creation together was clearly part of the appeal.
Our first and fourth meetings were at the CSJ Center in LaGrange Park, the middle two at the American Islamic College in Chicago. Day Two featured “speed faithing,” (a variation on “speed dating.”) Every Catholic paired with every Muslim for about 8 minutes, rotating around when I signaled time-to-move-to-the-dear-neighbor. Here they got to satisfy their curiosities about the what, why and how of spiritual practices, beliefs, family and community life, whatever they wanted to ask!
In the third meeting we expressly set out to learn the “joys and griefs” of being faithful in our society today. Listening and sharing shifted down into a palpably deeper gear.
At our last gathering, I introduced the prayer practice of sharing the state of the heart. This is the simple, profound way that Sisters of St. Joseph have prayed together since our 17th Century founding. I would say that many moments of such sharing had transpired even before these women knew what it was called.
When I gaze upon these photos again, I am awestruck and humbled to realize that God worked out some unity and reconciliation through my efforts. I say it’s no small thing to help God engender hope, gratitude, and love in people’s hearts.
Yes, I know some Muslims personally. They’re my sisters, actually.
If you’d like to do more reading about Muslims and Islam, here are some trustworthy and eye-opening sources:
Duffner, Jordan Denari. Dialogue and Danger: Report on American Catholic Public Opinion and Portrayals of Islam. Survey findings, Prince Alwaleed Bin Talal Center for Muslim-Christian Understanding, Georgetown: Georgetown University, 2016. http://bridge.georgetown.edu/danger-dialogue-american-catholic-public- opinion-and-portrayals-of-islam/
Esposito, John L., and Dalia Mogahed. Who Speaks for Islam? What a Billion Muslims Really Think. New York: Gallup Press, 2007.
Lean, Nathan. The Islamophobia Industry: How the Right Manufactures Fear of Muslims. London: Pluto Press, 2012.
Mattson, Ingrid. The Story of the Qur’an: Its History and Place in Muslim Life. Oxford: Blackwell, 2008.
About the Author
Sister Mary Jo Curtsinger is a former school psychologist and high school teacher of theology. She is now working on a doctoral degree at Catholic Theological Union. She loves movies, dancing, and little kids.
12 thoughts on “Do You Know a Muslim?”
I am sorry to say that I don’t know a Muslim! What a wonderful project, life-changing for some, I believe, as well as a stepping stone to deeper relationships and a stretching and openness of the mind and heart, basic for understanding ideas other than one’s own. It could make a great documentary!
Thank you, Maria!
What a wonderful project! It deserves to be replicated many times over! As a college teacher, I was fortunate to meet a number of Muslims and to see how students could become accepting of each other and in many cases become friends. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Thank you, Miriam!
I had Muslim neighbors when I lived in Countryside, IL and learned so much about Islam from them! Such prayerful, faithful, hospitable people and such great neighbors! I feel blessed to have had the privilege of living next door to them for almost 12 years and getting to know them and their children and grandchildren. Such a gift!
Thanks for your comment, Marie! What a wonderful gift to get to know such wonderful people!
Living in the same building as many Muslim families has proven to be a joy in my life. Many have taken up residency in my heart and provide encouragement, a passion for simplicity, and tactile kindness.
Wonderful, Rita! Thank you for sharing!
We have 7 refugee families coming to Nazareth on Oct. 15 most of whom are Muslim. We’re so looking forward to getting to know one another! Your group sharing idea is phenomenal! How can one not make new friends this way! Thanks so much, Mary Jo.
How wonderful, Kathleen! Thank you!
I too have had two Muslim families as neighbors for the past few year or more and I love them like my own family members. Their God is Our God and their hopes and beliefs for all mankind is exactly the same! They are very warm hospitable people, charming, sweet and some great sense of humor!!! I wish everyone could enjoy the fortunate chances I’ve experienced from their homes.
Thank you so much for sharing, Marilyn!